Title: Dadspirations: The 1st 100 Days Of Fatherhood
Author: Pete Densmore
Publisher: Dadspirations Press
Length: 176 Pages
Sub-Genres: Parenting/ Relation-ships
DADspirations: The 1st 100 Days of Fatherhood is a fast-reading, humorous book which includes an actionable checklist of essential ideas to help inspire dads to become the best father they can be. In short, this book offers a strategy for the expecting/new father focusing on 35 weekly ideas that Dad can do for himself, his wife and his newborn. A few of these ideas, which Densmore refers to as DADspirations, include:
● Develop a baby birth time capsule, which captures all of the precious moments from a day you're likely to forget.
● Send your loving wife to the spa, which secures for you an afternoon of introducing Bob Ross and Kung Fu to your baby.
● Build a toy box, which gives you the perfect excuse to spend an entire day alone in the garage with power tools and beer.
Make up a holiday, which affords time for infant and grandma to bond, and gives you and your
wife time for nookie.
At any given point in time, I want to be able to recall all of the sights, sounds and emotions the day my daughter entered my life.
I want to see it.
I want to have a variety of pictures of Marie’s first few minutes in this world. I want to see pictures that show Marie’s name written for the first time on the hospital room’s dry-erase board, tears running down Wifey’s cheeks as she smiled and held our baby girl in her arms, and my little Marie asleep on my chest while I stare up at the ceiling, wondering how I’ve had two kids in less than two years.
I want to hear it.
A twenty-song playlist blared throughout the delivery room, featuring everything from Jay-Z to Katy Perry. And as luck would have it, I was feeling a little unnerved that Rihanna’s “S&M” was playing when Marie entered the world, because nothing could make a Dad more frightened for his daughter than associating her with the lyrics, “…sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me….”
I want to feel it.
When Marie left the hospital, she wore a pink, fluffy outfit, including a cap that had bunny ears sticking straight up, and booties featuring a pair of tiny black eyes, a pink nose, and of course, satin bunny ears. Those are among the things I will collect and keep: printed-out pictures, an MP3 player with her songs, and the bunny suit—the things I can see, hear, and feel from the most incredibly special and amazingly wonderful day that I otherwise wouldn’t have been able to remember.
I need to store it.
I found an old baseball card box to contain print-outs of the pictures (remember to bring a camera to the hospital), an old iPod™ with headphones to hear Marie’s playlist (make sure to include a battery charger), and a Ziploc™ bag to contain her outfit (hey, I’m a guy, it’s as cute as I get).
Daddy Letter For My Daughter
On the day Marie was born, I was a mess. We had a false labor the previous day, I had to give a client presenta-tion at work that morning, and our babysitter for Henry bailed on us, causing a last minute scramble. When Marie is old enough, I will share with her the excite-ment, the anxiety and the fear that was bottled up inside me the day she was born. Every dad is a complete wreck that day, whether he admits or not. After all, you are in a dimly lit, cold hospital room, surrounded by strang-ers, while your wife is in pain for hours on end, you feel helpless to make her feel better, and all while the best experience in the world is going to happen at any moment.
Looking back on that day, I want my daughter to know that her dad was swearing like a sailor as he fought un-precedented traffic at 9:00 p.m. on the way to the hospital; that her dad nearly missed her birth because he was in the parking lot transferring her brother’s car seat to grandpa’s car; and that her dad stole a piece of pizza from the hospital floor’s community refrigerator. (Give me a break; I hadn’t eaten in twelve hours.) And, above 14 PETE DENSMORE all, there are three things I want her to know that I was thinking when I first held her in my arms: boy that pizza was good; how do I make sure she ends up with a good guy like Daddy; and how do I make sure she knows that being smart is cool. These are the types of thoughts, feelings and ideas I will share with my little girl so that she can understand her OCD father a little bit better.
Daddy Letter For a Son
The idea is the same, although you might be not be inclined to be sweet and sappy for your son. I’d suggest tough love. If it was for my own son, Henry, the three things I would want him to know that I was thinking when I first held him my arms were: do not get a girl pregnant if she’s not your wife; the high school quarterback is not God; and you are not entitled to anything, especially not a car on your sixteenth birthday.
Week 1 Recap
Memory is a funny thing. It can’t always be trusted, can it? In twenty years, I may not remember the look on my son’s face when he first saw me, or that Ne-Yo was the first singer he heard when he entered this world, or how his skin smelled like maple syrup. But, with Marie, not only will I remember what was going on, I’ll be able to see it, hear it, and feel it, whenever WE want to, together.
About The Author:
Humorist and author of DADspirations: The 1st 100 Days of Fatherhood, father of two Pete Densmore doesn’t consider himself an expert in parenthood by any means. He makes the same number of mistakes as every other parent and doesn’t have any fancy combination of letters after his name. Densmore believes that anyone can be an inspired dad
as long as he wants to put the time, effort and heart into becoming one.
GoodReads Reviews (3 out of 3 reviews)
1 Josee Phillip, December 10, 2012: Thank you for Goodreads and to the author for providing me a free copy of this wonderful book. I read this book along with one of my good male friends who is expecting a baby girl. This book is fun and realistic and makes a future dad "as ready as can be" to take upon this terrific challenge. I ended up giving him the copy of he book; he can always learn something new.
2 Jennifer Dilks, December 13, 2012: Hilarious! This book should be required reading for all new dads. And those who aren't "new"...there's always room for improvement, right? A comical outlook on the first 100 days of fatherhood, with enough sentimental touch that moms will enjoy reading also. A light-hearted, quick read that would be a perfect gift for the father-to-be. I'm so thankful to have received this book as a Goodreads first-reads giveaway...but I'm passing it along to a friend (a new dad!).
3 Lacey Gordon, December 16, 2012: I won this book through the GOODREADS GIVEAWAYS and it was a win that I am glad I won. I did read this book but I mostly won it for my husband. I want to give it to him when we start our family. I know he'll enjoy it as much as me. Great book!
Amazon Reviews (3 out of 10 reviews, 5.0 Star Cumulative Rating)
1 Best Book for Dads!!! November 5, 2012: An excellent an awesome book!!! Written by a DAD. Great advice, easy to read, funny and smart, I totally recommend this book to first time Dads. It would help you and entertain you a lot while the first months of your baby. 5 STARS!!
2 Makes the perfect gift for your buddy who's about to be a dad! October 15, 2012: This book couldn't be more perfect for that buddy of yours who's about to be a dad. Filled with awesome ideas and great tips to make those first couple of months easier on you and mom.
First hand Creativity and Confidence October 14, 2012: Lets be honest, as exciting and miraculous the birth of a child can be for a father, it is an experience that can challenge ones confidence. That is where the book Dadspirations steps in. This first hand account of fatherhood will help calm your nerves, keep you laughing, spark your creativity and give you the confidence you are looking for. It gives you ideas on how to keep daddy, mommy, and baby supported and happy. What a great gift for all the soon-to-be dads in your life or a new perspective for those who already have children.
Pete Densmore is a humorist and first-time author with the only book that offers a strategy for the expecting/new father focusing on 35 weekly ideas that Dad can do for himself, his wife and his newborn: DADspirations: The 1st 100 Days of Fatherhood. Father of two, Pete Densmore doesn’t consider himself an expert in parenthood by any means. He makes the same number of mistakes as every other parent and doesn’t have any fancy combination of letters after his name. Densmore believes that anyone can be an inspired dad as long as he wants to put the time, effort and heart into becoming one. One of his writing quirks is that he always listen to movie scores when he writes. No words or lyrics, just random background sounds—a nice change of pace from the soothing sounds (and screams) of his children. Pete lives with his wife, Kimberley, and two children in Bartlett, IL. His web address is www.DADspirations.com